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My Letter to Eva

May 25, 2014

Eva,

First and foremost, thank your parents.  You were given this opportunity to come to America to study because of their hard work, the sacrifices they made and because they value education.

I hope that your travels to the United States and going to school at Regis were everything that you hoped it would be and more. It takes a lot of courage to leave everything that you’ve known to be safe and secure, to head to the unknown, to leave behind family and friends and set out for a new school and new host family.

You have done tremendously and grown a lot.  The 2 ½ years has gone by fast.  We can’t believe that the time has come for you to move on to the next step of your journey.  We wish you the best and want you to know that we will continue to support you.  Please call us if you need anything or have questions.  We hope that you will come back to visit and keep in touch.  We wanted to give you the experience of knowing what a typical middle class American family lives like.  I think that you found that most Americans work hard, play hard and are well rounded.  We combine academics with sports and extra curriculars.  We were here to support you in school and to give you opportunities and experiences that were different than what you were accustomed to.

In the last 2 ½ years you tried new activities and different foods.  You marched on Capitol Hill in Washington DC for Pro Life.  You traveled to Chicago for Choir.  You went to Mall of America and Valley Fair.  You were involved in National Honor Society, Choir, Math Club and International Club.  You were involved in Forensics.  You were in two One Act Plays ~ This Is A Test and The Romancers.  It’s been quite a ride. We hope that you enjoyed your experiences, going to school at Regis High School, living with us and living in Eau Claire.

We know that you will do well in college.  The changes will be less dramatic since you’re accustomed to the way things are done in America, but still lots of changes none-the-less.  Next fall you’ll be sharing a small bedroom, sharing a bathroom and showers with lot of girls, and you’ll be on your own.  In college, you will be held accountable, no one will hold your hand or check up on you.  The professors don’t care if you show up for class or notify you if you have missing assignments.  It’s up to you to go to class and study every night and get your assignments turned in on time.  I don’t think the professors will forward you power points.  I don’t think they will grade on a Pass/Fail.  The professors are there to teach and it’s up to you to learn and attend classes, sometimes that means going even if you don’t feel good.

Here’s some advice that we can give you as you start college in the fall.

Find a place to study in the library, the same spot and location every day.  When you go, only study in the library, don’t use Facebook or watch YouTube.  Do the other things in your room or some other location on campus.  I would really concentrate on studying and taking notes and writing papers in English.  It would be so much easier if you had done that 2 ½ years ago.  It’s important that you start college off that way.  At first, it will be harder, but in the long haul, it will make studying that much easier.  It will take less time trying to translate back and forth.  Start that right away in the fall, as soon as you get back.  Start with your first class, your first notes.  Soon it will become a habit and you’ll be so glad that you did.

It is important that once you reach a goal that you keep striving and pushing for the next goal.  Don’t give up or coast through to the end.   It is easy once you see the goal in sight to tend to slack up a little and not push hard thru to the end. Try not to do that.  In order to be successful you need to push to the very end.

You have to keep a balance.    It is natural to have the tendency to focus on one class you may be struggling with.  It’s okay to spend extra time on that class, but you can’t disregard the other classes altogether.

Get a calendar and keep track of what is due when.  List your homework assignments or reading that needs to be done daily.  Do the readings and assignments in English.  Keep up daily.  Start term papers right away and don’t wait.  They take a lot of time, research, writing, bibliographies/footnotes.

You have grown so much.  You are a beautiful young woman.  Thank you for allowing us to be part of your journey.  Let us know if you need any help in the future.  Come back and visit us.

Best of luck to you as you begin the next step of your journey.  Congratulations on your graduation, an accomplishment that you can be proud of.  Continue to get involved and keep learning.  Life has so much to offer, so many opportunities.

We will definitely miss you, please keep in touch,

The Liming’s

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