Father’s Day 2016
My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.
~ Clarence Budington Kelland
After more than twenty years of counseling, Meg Meeker, M.D. states in her book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, a father is the most important person in a young girl’s life. The most important factor for girls growing up into confident, women is a strong father with conservative values.
I have found this to be true, as there are things that only fathers can provide. A father paves the way for what young girls look for in men and what she should expect from her husband. Her father shows her how she should be treated and valued.
In the book, Why A Daughter Needs A Dad, Gregory E. Lang gives 100 reasons why a daughter needs a dad. Five of my favorite reasons are listed below.
A daughter needs a dad to teach her that family is more important than work. My dad believes that family time is very important. My dad taught us to work hard and play hard. We had a cottage up north and spent a lot of family time on the pontoon grilling, swimming, and fishing. In the winter we spent time snowmobiling. Every two years we took a family vacation.
A daughter needs a dad who gives her refuge in a home secured with faith. My father has always lead by example when it comes to faith. He makes church a priority. He taught us to pray when kneeling down with us by our bed at night. He is a servant leader, who serves his fellow man and community tirelessly.
A daughter needs a dad to teach her the joy of serving others. My father values serving others and giving back in time, talent, and treasure. He has been involved with Knights of Columbus, a fraternal service organization, for over 50 years. He has driven for the food pantry, refinished doors at the school, and made pieces of furniture for the church. He has definitely passed this value onto his children and grandchildren.
A daughter needs a dad to teach her that a man’s strength is not in the force of his hand or his voice, but the kindness of his heart. When I got married I walked down the aisle to Daddy’s Hands by Holly Dunn. “Daddy’s hands were soft and kind when I was cryin’, daddy’s hands were hard as steel when I’d done wrong, daddy’s hands weren’t always gentle but I’ve come to understand, there was always love in daddy’s hands.” My dad was the disciplinarian growing up, but he was also the gentle one, the one that set you up on the counter to get the best light in order to take out a sliver. Dad showed his kindness when he made me poached eggs, his best known remedy for an upset stomach.
A daughter needs a dad to be the standard against which she will judge all men. My father is an example of a good man. He is a man of integrity, a man who is trusted and respected; he is an honest man who has lived his life committed to his family. He made bacon and eggs for us every Sunday morning before church. He helped out with homework especially if it involved science or math. He helped me make a paper mache mountain for a class project.
This Father’s Day, write your dad a note, it doesn’t matter whether he is living or deceased. Jot down some of the lessons he taught you, the wisdom he shared, the values he passed down to you, leaving a legacy for future generations.
My father’s greatest lessons came from faith, family, a life of service, and the value of hard work. He taught us to fight for principles. He was a peace keeper. My father is a jack-of-all trades. He can do electrical, plumbing, gardening, surveying, auto mechanics, and woodworking. In my eyes there isn’t anything that he can’t do.
If you work with your hands, your mind, and your heart … you are a craftsman. ~Saint Francis of Assisi
I’m very fortunate that my father is a craftsman and I have been gifted many of his homemade wooden treasures. The first keepsake that I received from him was a wooden jewelry box that plays Ave Maria. My dad also made our bedroom set that adorned the bedroom that I shared with my sister. Some of the pieces that he has made my family include bunk beds, desks, bathroom vanities, and my scrapbook room cabinets. Every piece that he makes is a treasured gift.
This is what I’d write about my dad. What will you write about yours?
Published in The Eau Claire Journal ~ June 2016